Sorry to hear about your break up. Its bad enough that your imagination aimlessly creates scenarios with your ex, but Facebook gives you up-to-date play-by-plays. Your ex is attending a party off campus. Your ex added new photos of him that “I knew she wasn’t just a friend”-friend. Your ex just changed his relationship status to “free for all”. I know, I know--it’s the worst. But, never fear…I am well rested after an eventful summer (and poke wars) to give you 4 sure-fire tips in dealing with heartache. Even Mark Z would be proud!

 

Make some new Facebook friends. Search for a friendly Facebook group in your school’s network or find one of those funky new global groups. For starters, I recommend two of my favorite groups: UniversityChic.com or Friends of the REMIX. You just might engage in a (seemingly) delightful and (hopefully) meaningful wall conversation, through which you’ll converse with another student with similar interests, which--if done correctly--could evolve into private message exchanges. Now I’m not suggesting you meet (or date) your new buddy, but do make a new friend. At the least, the conversation could get your mind off of things for a while…unless this new friend sends too many application invites. In that case, block his app happy ass.

 

 

Have your best friend intervene. If your best friends are true best friends, they’ve already tried to intervene. They tried finding various off campus activities to prevent you from logging in. Or while you’re reading this, they’re trying to hack your account to delete him from your friends and could change your password. That way, you can’t log in and be forced to do something constructive other than Facebook… like studying. Just a thought.

 

 

Take your time and turn the tables. The first step to any type of problem recovery is admitting the problem, so there’s hope for you, Ms. Sherlock. But have you ever taken the time to think about your ex? Maybe he’s doing some sleuthing of his own. And if you’re the vindictive, look-at-what-your-missing type ex, you can fight fire with fire. First, delete any pictures (and photo albums!) with you two together. Then, put on some relaxing music while untagging yourself to un-bag those unwanted attachments with your ex. No, it’s not the most mature move for a budding college student like yourself, but you need to move on. You might want to change your status to “SINGLE and taking application!”…or maybe something less desperate, but effective. Trust me, it’ll bother him.

 

 

Delete him from your friends list. If all else fails, there’s the fail safe plan to getting over your Facebook fix, although it’s one of the pettiest moves in the college dating playbook: delete him from your friends list. In all fairness, those mini-feeds are intrusive… and annoying…and always seem to showcase information that you’d rather not know. Save yourself the headache and take him out of your network.