Hi Allison,

I've been a member of University Chic for some time, but this is my first comment, as a man (Heterosexual of course) I may have some useful insights. I've worked with Womens' Organization in Florida and now I work as a consultant and lobbyist for Women's Org's. I tune into University Chic to get some idea of college aged and young professional women's lives. So, you're story is intriguing to say the least.

I read your article and what you're experiencing is as old as love itself. Most men, regardless of age, have a tuff time connecting with their freinds' girlfreind, especially if they met her through their freind (that connection is key because they can't see, speak to or meet without your Boy Freinds Permission). In your article, you mentioned "that maybe they're all so in love with me", well I'm sure there is something to that statement. From the outside looking in, you've done your due dilligence to build happiness and togetherness into your relationship and his freinds probably see your value as a Woman, but to connect with you in any meaningfull way would break one of those unwritten rules Men live by and learn from experience to avoid. To connect with you might cause some tention between your boyfreind and the freind or freinds that connect with you. Because, to do so, would mean the freind has achieved a closeness with you that is outside of his freinds acknowledgement. And, while you would NEVER act on any of that. We know that Men are not always as loyal as women and might attempt something in a vunerable moment (Have you seen the Best Man w/Tay Diggs). But, keep up the good work, over time you'll get to know them just fine. It's the result of youth and immaturity and there's really nothing you can do other than be patient. Also, be glad they won't initiate you, Men have some weird rituals that you don't want to go into.

In any event, know this from an Old Guy whose been there and done that. Your on the right track, if you become the ONE, they'll all know why and probably regret that they didn't get you first.

Good Luck

James James